I once heard Michelle Duggar say we should encourage our children 10 times more than we correct them. At first I thought that sounded insane, who really does that? Children will be children, and many times they need correcting. I don’t think Michelle was saying stop correcting your kids, rather she was explaining it’s better to focus on the positive behavior more than the negative!
How do we promote positive behavior, so there is less negative behavior?
In our home, we use Positive Jars!
What’s a Positive Jar?
Simple. Let me explain!
Each child has their own “jar”, this can be anything from a mason jar, a small decorative box, a special glass or in our case, a cleaned out soup can.
The jar is decorated and has each childs’ name on it. The stickers and sequences were bought from the dollar bins at Target!
Every time we catch the kids behaving positively they get rewarded by putting a pom-pom in their jar. These pom-poms and the box they are in were also found in the dollar bins at Target.

They can get pom-poms for saying, “ok” when we ask them to do something. Or if they put their shoes, clothes or toys away without being asked. When we over hear them sharing or being polite they get a pom-pom. You get the point!
Okay, then what?
After their jar is full of pom-poms they get to pull a stick! Again, all items found at Target.
…who me, addicted to the dollar bin at Target…whatever gave you that idea?…
The sticks are simple and fun things they get to buy or do!
Dinner with mom
Dinner with dad
Sleep in the living room
Jamba Juice treat (surprisingly, our kids love this one)
Ice cream treat
$5 at the dollar store (ha!)
$.99 app for the iPad (upon parent approval)
The sticks can say anything you’d like, but I suggest they are things your children enjoy! Since our little ones are six years old and under, these rewards work out great.
This system has been in place now for a few months and it’s working out wonderfully. There is still negative behavior, there always will be, but this has helped give our little punks the attention they need for the positive behavior we expect of them!






























